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Writer shares secrets, says anyone can find adventure in everyday life

By Pat Conway
SPECIAL TO THE NEWS-TIMES
2003-04-25

 

David Silberkleit, author of “A New Adventure Every Day: 541 Simple Ways to Live with Pizzazz,” will be at Borders in Danbury for a booksigning on Thursday, at 7:30 p.m.
 

David Silberkleit, author of “A New Adventure Every Day: 541 Simple Ways to Live with Pizzazz,” will be at Borders in Danbury for a booksigning on Thursday, at 7:30 p.m.

Helen Keller once said "life is either a daring adventure or it is nothing at all.”

David Silberkleit would wholeheartedly agree. But he knows that most people will never get to climb Mt. Everest or trek through the Amazon rain forest. Yet, to him, adventure lies on everyone’s doorstep.

"I discovered I didn’t need to go anywhere or plan any trips in order to be adventurous,” says Silberkleit, who has flown a blimp, dined at the White House, and biked from Hanoi to Saigon.

"Adventure was all around me.”

A Master Certified Life Coach, Silberkleit is the author of "A New Adventure Every Day: 541 Simple Ways to Live with Pizzazz” (Sourcebooks, Inc., $12.95).

"I wanted to write about the spirit of adventure — making adventure available to everyone,” the Branford, CT, resident admits.

The grandson of the founder of Archie Comics, Silberkleit started out with a life many would envy.

In 1984 at age 23, he went to work at his family’s business. As the director of marketing and VP of licensing projects, Silberkleit stood to take over Archie Comics when his father retired.

But all that changed in May 1993 when Silberkleit quit his job, leaving his inheritance and the company behind.

"I’m not passionate about comic books,” he admits. "I needed to get out and see who I was. I didn’t want something handed to me — I wanted to create.”

For the next year, he drifted, not sure of what he wanted to do. He was ready to change his life but didn’t know quite how. On the advice of a friend, Silberkleit started working with a personal coach in 1995 to find out what direction he should take.

One of the first things he discovered was that he wasn’t alone — many people want to change their lives but don’t know how to do it. It was then he discovered what he wanted to do.

"I wanted to help people discover their own mission, their own career,” he recalls. "I wanted to find a way to express people’s passions.” And thus, Silberkleit discovered his own career path.

He became a Master Certified Life Coach in 1998, putting in 200 hours of coach training and coaching hundreds of clients.

A client of his, Karen Heffner of Westport, met the author in February of this year at one of his book signings.

"David gave a mini group coaching session there, asking a few simple questions and I saw several people in the audience change a perception about their life. He impressed me by his ability to really listen,” Heffner recalls. A week later, she signed on as a client.

"I am an artist and David is helping me reincorporate my creativity into my very left-brain job (at a mortgage company). I am learning to live in the moment in my whole life, not just my art,” attests Heffner. "Through David’s coaching, my perspective on my career, my finances, and even my spirituality has changed.”

As a life and career coach, Silberkleit says, he helps people make their lives extraordinary. "I support people to create a life that’s a glorious adventure.” Benefits include more freedom, more courage, and more vitality.

"There is an everyday adventurer that lives inside each of us,” the author says. "What I like to call ‘adventure coaching’ is about setting free that inner spark for life.”

Most clients hear of Silberkleit through word-of-mouth. Since 1995, he’s worked with more than 500 clients in private practice. Rates run $400 monthly, which includes either two 60-minute sessions per month or four 30-minute sessions. Meetings either take place in Silberkleit’s office, by phone, or, for an extra fee, the coach will come to the client’s office.

"It’s an investment,” Silberkleit says. "Clients will get a lot more out of it.”

A four-month commitment is required which also entitles a client to unlimited e-mail coaching whenever needed.

For those who don’t need the services of a Master Certified Life Coach, Silberkleit wrote his book to demonstrate that adventure is within us all and as near as our own home.

"My book is a guidebook to get adventures out of life,” he says. "I’ve taken apart everyday life and demonstrated ways anyone can find adventure, regardless of their lifestyle. All you need is a new attitude and a willingness to see adventure as your undeniable right.”

His book includes sections on adventures at home, with nature, with (and without) money, career adventures, adventures with relationships, and adventures with your health and well being.

There are four basic principles of adventure that Silberkleit, 42, names in his book.

The first — you are responsible for your own adventure —it’s not up to a tour guide or anyone else to provide it.

The next says that there is more risk in living a sedentary life than a life full of fun and excitement. "A life focused solely on safety consumes vitality,” the author writes, "but an adventurous life creates vitality.”

The third principle states that you are absolutely entitled to enjoy adventure in every day of your life no matter who or where you are. Even a housebound senior citizen can find new adventures by playing bridge with someone halfway around the globe on the Internet, the author states. Or they can learn to grow orchids at home, or cook a new ethnic cuisine.

And the fourth principle says that novelty is adventurous. Look for a new discovery in the most mundane routines of your life. "We’ve become so serious about life,” the author notes. "My book invites people to have childhood innocence and wonder back — to let go of cynicism.”

Tips for getting started

Some of the things he recommends in his book are:

 

  • Make a small altar to your achievements by displaying your trophies, diplomas and photos of yourself living your dreams.

     

  • Get a trampoline. A good jumping session completely shakes up your perspective and loosens up your adventurous spirit.

     

  • Visit a florist to see which scents evoke powerful memories from your past, then energize your home with a bouquet that reminds you of something wonderful.

     

  • Give yourself an outrageous gift every birthday. Purchase a tangible acknowledgment of another year of hard work.

     

  • Encourage your kids to be junior philanthropists by giving them an appropriate amount every year that they have to give away to a charity of their choice.

     

  • Do something fun with each of your parents individually. Go someplace way outside the box.

     

  • Ask an elderly neighbor to tell you stories about how the neighborhood used to look.

    "If you are longing for adventure,” the author says, "this is the guidebook that allows people to start right now.”

    It may not be easy for certain people such as retirees and widows and widowers, but the author says that adventures are out there — sometimes you just have to meet them halfway.

    "Volunteering is a great way to meet people,” he advises. "When people do what they love, they attract great friends and create a community where it wouldn’t have occurred.

    "Learn the things you’ve always wanted to learn,” he continues. That could be signing up for a yoga class, rediscovering religion, seeing a great foreign film, going to the library one night a week, joining a club, cooking a new dish, or going to a support group for widows and widowers.

    The author says that once people read his book, their lives will change. "If they do one adventure a day,” he adds, "their lives will be more adventurous.”

    Even if you’re shy, he adds, adventures are waiting for you.

    "When people get in touch with their passions, something wonderful is possible.”

    Silberkleit joined a book group at his local library and noticed a shy man in his midst. He started a conversation and asked the man what he liked. "Comic books,” was the man’s reply. Since the author knew so much about them, they struck up a long conversation and a friendship was made.

    Silberkleit was born in New Rochelle, N.Y., but grew up in Scarsdale. A man of many interests, he has been a hospice volunteer in Stamford for the past year.

    "When I signed up to be a hospice volunteer, I wanted to learn more about death,” he says. "But hospice patients have taught me about adventures in life.”

    Silberkleit, who is divorced, also flies twin engine airplanes for Airlifeline, a volunteer organization that helps patients and families travel to receive medical treatment.

    The rest of his creative energy is harnessed into conducting adventure workshops and adventure camps — he will be taking small groups to a writer’s camp on Martha’s Vineyard, a glassblowing retreat in Williamsburg, MA, and a nature trip to Iceland this year.

    "I have the freedom now to create what I love,” Silberkleit admits, "and to create the things that I’d like to share with other people.”

    David Silberkleit will be at Borders in Danbury for a booksigning on Thursday, May 1, at 7:30 p.m.

    To get a free weekly adventure e-mail and for more information, visit Silberkleit’s Web site at www.everydayadventure.com. To contact David Silberkleit, e-mail him at david@empowercoach.com

     

    Six Everyday Adventures for Troubling Times:

    1. Home. Work on your nest. Stop dreaming of your perfect decor; create it now, within the confines of your current abode. Make your home adventurous by playing with your space until it makes you smile.

    2. Relationships. Ask for what you want and need. Share more secrets. Tell more people you love them. Take your old friends someplace new.

    3. Body. Try a yoga class, go for a bike ride, try water aerobics, learn to fence. Join a racquetball league at the gym, or sign up for a competitive event and train with a friend. Even put music on in your living room and dance.

    4. Career. Learn something new each day about your business and about your co-workers.

    5. Money. If you are compulsively saving for the future, spend some money today and enjoy the fruits of all your hard work.

    6. Nature. Spend an hour each day outside, exploring your neighborhood. Learn to identify the trees on your property and the birds in your yard. Notice the clouds; study your local geology.

    Bring shells or pebbles or pinecones inside, to showcase local natural art. Nature is right outside your window.

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